"Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it." Mark Twain.
Self esteem refers to how we judge our sense of self-worth and how much we value and accept ourselves.
It is useful to break down self esteem into:
- what we believe,
- how we feel and
- what we do plus
- the way that we do things, for example, with or without confidence.
We all experience low self-esteem issues from time to time. But for some people this is a major source of severe unhappiness and confidence drain.
The good news is that self-esteem is not fixed and, with a little help, we can begin building our sense of self-worth.
Example: How low self-esteem is trying to ruin John's life.
In many situations John holds strong beliefs about his lack of competence. Often his mind tells him: "I'm not good enough." "I'm a waste of space." "I can't get anything right." Other people sometimes say these things to him too.
When this happens John feels a range of emotions from despair and anxiety to shame.
This, in turn, impacts on how John shows up in the world. He often presents himself in a very meak, passive and cautious manner.
The consequence of this is that it is hard for John to 'be himself' and to contribute to the world in the way he would like to as he fears rejection and ridicule.
Therefore, he feels frustrated with himself, struggles with relationships and work and spends most of his spare time on his laptop.
As he does not feel accepted by others, John also tends to avoid certain situations.
All of this means that 'low self esteem' has caught John in a bit of a nasty trap.
Counselling can help you:
1. Step out of the low-self esteem trap and move forward in your life.
2. Overcome internal blocks.
3. Help you accept yourself.
4. Take risks.
5. Develop confidence.
6. Have a richer and more meaningful life and relationships.
You should consider seeking counselling or cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) when your low self-esteem problem is interfering with your normal functioning, relationships and daily activities and you would like help from an experienced and qualified therapist to overcome this problem.
To make an appointment for Self Esteem Counselling or CBT or to make an inquiry, please contact Tracey Johnston, Clinical Director tel: 07593768129
or email (please click on email link): firstname.lastname@example.org
All communications will be treated with the highest level of confidentiality and discretion.
Possibilities Counselling and Psychotherapy Centre
14 - 20 John Street