Let us help you through difficult times with bereavement counselling
Bereavement, grief and loss and the accompanying pain and suffering can be overwhelming, traumatic and numbing. Possibilities grief counselling and ‘enhanced’ cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) for bereavement involves listening carefully to your concerns, offering support and ways to help you cope better, manage intense feelings and develop a new relationship with the loss whilst sensitively attending to any spiritual issues. The therapy we offer is ‘enhanced’ with the latest developments in bereavement research and therapy methods.
Sometimes, it’s too difficult to talk with family and friends about what you’re experiencing; therefore, many people gain a great sense of relief from talking to a Possibilities specialist bereavement therapist in our safe and confidential setting.
Will bereavement counselling help?
Bereavement, grief, loss and the associated emotional pain and suffering is something we will all experience to varying degrees. A significant loss can also bring many different intense negative feelings. For example, the passing of a significant other can mean your aspirations for the future change, there may be grief about what could have been, plus guilt, shame, anxiety, anger and regrets about things said or never said, done or never done. Concerns about emotional legacies too.
Some people experience guilt, confusion and worry because they are not going through the often quoted ‘five stages of grief’ as defined by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (1969): denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. However, it is often overlooked that these stages were made up by Kubler-Ross following a handful of interviews with people who were dying, and not those grieving the loss of a loved one. More contemporary understandings (Moules et al, 2007) suggest that there are no stages of grief and, although there may be some overlap, each individual has their own unique process. Moules (2007) suggests that there is no ‘recovery’ from grief, in terms of a returning to ‘normal’, only an incorporation of the loss into your future life.
“There is a wild howl at the centre of grief.” Megan Devine, Psychotherapist.
There are many causes of bereavement.
For example, the bereavement may be related to the death or departing of a loved one (relative, partner, friend or pet), the loss related to changes in a relationship or the loss about leaving home or moving to a new area, the loss associated with illness or disability, the loss related to childhood events or abuse, of being abandoned or rejected by others, the loss related to career prospects and other things. Grief can represent a significant reflection of love but often it is much more complicated.
Currently, our world is marinating in grief and increasingly people are experiencing intense bereavement reactions related to ecological loss or ecocide. These losses, associated with human-beings relentless destruction of life, other species and the essential natural habitats of the planet, lead to intense grief about the future and what is and will be lost.
While we never fully forget the pain of loss, for many it becomes less intense over time. For some, however, the grief is overwhelming and incapacitating, making it much harder to move forward. Some of us don’t want to move forward as the thought of doing so is too unbearable. Some of us bury the pain of the loss but it often leaks out later in disturbing ways.
Possibilities specialist bereavement counselling and psychotherapy will adapt to what you need. Everybody grieves in different ways, so we work hard to fit around your needs. We’ll help you navigate through difficult times, talk to you about how to manage your feelings and, where appropriate, offer expert advice on how to approach other aspects of your life.
We understand bereavement is one of the hardest challenges of life and we can provide caring, compassionate support for you.
When should you seek bereavement counselling?
Whenever you feel you need to talk. While not being able to function normally is a key sign that you need more support. Often people can’t talk freely with family and friends and benefit greatly from discussing their struggles with one of our caring and supportive counselors. If you feel you would like to contact us for help, please do so.
Isn’t bereavement and grief normal?
Most of us will feel grief and loss at various stages in life. Some people numb-out and “feel nothing”. But for others, the loss can be intolerable. Although there may be common themes between people, your experience of loss is a unique experience for you. At Possibilities, our bereavement counselling provides an extra level of care for those who are struggling through this process.
Allow us to reassure you that professional help is at hand. We offer services that aim to reduce the fear and uncertainty about getting help. Arrange an initial consultation ‘taster’ session to discuss your needs, in privacy and comfort, to obtain a sense of how we help and for if this is the right direction for you.
And the day came when the risk (it took) to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
What our previous clients have said
I experienced severe trauma and developed a Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder which meant I wasn’t coping well with day to day life. With CBT Therapy at Possibilities, I’ve made a number of positive changes. It was a struggle at times but my psychotherapist helped me feel safe and capable as we worked through things. I’m now back at work and my confidence is growing. I have a life again. I’m so glad I took that scary first step and called. If you’re feeling unsure, I highly recommend you call them too.
– JT, Aberdeenshire: Trauma Counselling Aberdeen.
I thought my life wasn’t worth living. My depression convinced me I was worthless and useless and my situation was hopeless. If you’re feeling something similar, go to Possibilities. They made an enormous difference to my life and they can do the same for you.
– AD, Aberdeen: Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy for Depression.
My relationship with my partner has vastly improved. We’re more able to communicate and we’re spending more time together and having fun! I can’t believe we were on the verge of separating when we contacted Possibilities as a last resort. I can’t thank them enough.
– SMcM, Aberdeenshire: Couples Counselling Aberdeen.
Possibilities was outstanding. I’ve overcome my anxiety and have the tools to keep it at bay should I need them in the future.
– MK, Aberdeen: CBT Therapy for Anxiety.
Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming it.